“Where is my someone who’ll always understand?
The person who’ll give everything, just to take my hand”
Since this is my first foray into guest posting, I suppose an introduction is in order. My name is Anna. I am a psychologist and am currently working on my PsyD (Psychology Doctorate). My thesis is based on Disposable versus Forever Relationships: The State of Relationships in Modern Society. I have an amazing husband whom I spend a fair amount of time discussing. We’ve been married 12 years and together for 15. Considering I talk about everything from the arguments we have to the many ups and downs in our life to his penis, he’s pretty cool about it. A laconic fellow, but 100% supportive, so that’s groovy.
In talking to a friend the other day, my favorite subject came up, my thesis. I think so many people enter into relationships today, without the express purpose of making sure it sees a long life span. This is a disposable relationship. So what if it doesn’t work out? So what if there are kids? We can just get divorced. Where I live, parents have to take classes on how to co-parent, but do they work? Rarely. And only with a lot of time and effort on the divorcing parents. How often does that happen?
The hubbs and I haven’t had a life filled with chocolates and roses all the time. In fact, we almost split up during a particularly difficult time. The bottom line is our relationship is important to us. The fact that our son grows up with two parents who love him and are there for him is important to us. Most important of all, we stood up in front of friends and family and promised to be there for each other, forever. For better and worse, through thick and thin, through each awful and wonderful moment. We choose forever.
What do you choose?